Embracing Asian Identity in the US

Who am I

This is the question that I asked myself a lot when I came to US. The Asian American dual identity can often leave individuals feeling like the “loneliest Americans.” In the previous newsletter, I mentioned how my experience of moving to the US evoked a profound sense of being lost and disconnected. This sentiment resonates with many immigrants who share similar struggles. Despite living and working in the US, there is often an enduring feeling of not truly belonging. However, this detachment goes beyond the American experience. When we travel back to our home country, we also encounter a sense of disconnection. The intricate duality of our identity poses a significant challenge in fully assimilating into either culture, leaving us caught between two worlds. This perpetual state of feeling torn between two identities can give rise to a profound sense of loneliness, prompting us to embark on a heartfelt search for a place where we can authentically belong.

For me, the month of May holds a special significance as I reflect on my own immigrant journey from Vietnam. Coincidentally, I migrated to the United States in May 2008. Moving to a new country is never easy, and the most significant challenge I faced was finding my identity and understanding the cultural context of my new home. Growing up in Vietnam, I was immersed in a culture deeply rooted in community, hospitality, and close-knit relationships. However, when I arrived in the United States, I found myself navigating a cultural landscape that often felt foreign and, at times, isolating.

One of the most cherished aspects of Vietnamese culture that I strive to maintain is the tradition of hospitality. In Vietnam, it is common to invite friends and colleagues into one’s home, sharing meals and spending time together as a way to build and strengthen relationships. This practice is not just about socializing; it reflects the Vietnamese values of warmth, generosity, and a strong sense of community. However, in the United States, I noticed a stark difference. People tend to separate their work and social lives, often keeping interactions with colleagues within the confines of the workplace.

This cultural difference was challenging to navigate. I missed the familiarity and comfort of Vietnamese hospitality, where inviting someone into your home was an everyday norm. Yet, through this experience, I also learned to appreciate the diversity of cultural practices and found ways to blend my heritage with my new environment. I began to introduce my American friends and colleagues to Vietnamese customs, inviting them over for homemade meals and celebrating traditional festivals together. This not only helped me stay connected to my roots but also allowed me to share the beauty of Vietnamese culture with others.